FAST Way to Get Your Ex Back

FAST Way to Get Your Ex Back
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Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Get Your Ex Back - How to Contact After a Break Up

So why is my ex still contacting me now, you may ask?

Phone calls… text messages… these things were part of your daily life while you were dating your ex.

But what if they are still calling and texting you after the breakup?

And what if they were the one who initiated the breakup in the first place?

Does it mean your ex still loves you? Does she/he want you back? Or are they really just texting you to say hello, or calling you to see what’s up?

Well, in all honesty you’d be pretty naive to think all this contact means nothing. A girl or guy who broke up with you totally wouldn’t want much to do with you afterward. The fact that this person is still keeping in touch, even after breaking up, actually means something pretty important.

Understand something: a person dumps you for very specific reasons. Most of the time, these reasons include a desire to go on without you. Yet here, your ex is still trying to keep the lines of communication open. By text-messaging, emailing, or calling you on the phone, your ex is actually saying “Don’t go away just yet”.

Is your ex ready to get back together right now, at this very moment? Probably not. But simultaneously, they are also not ready to lose you. Your ex would much rather you stick around for a while, even through something as tenuous as texting and emailing, while they decide if they really want the breakup to ‘stick’.

Another approach he/she might take? The “let’s be friends” approach. This happens when your ex breaks up with you but pretends like they’d still like to stay friends with you. And I use the word ‘pretend’ intentionally here, because the last thing your ex really needs is THEIR ex for a friend. What does your ex really want? A crutch to lean on. A safety net, just in case she/he wants you back.

If your ex still calls and texts you, it’s because they are looking to keep you available. They might ultimately want to undo or reverse the breakup, but until that moment comes, they want to know you’re still there.

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Monday, November 7, 2011

Do Rebound Relationships Work Out?

Okay so in this post we are going to talk about something you may be thinking of doing, or already doing, after your breakup. I am going to tell you right now...

It is better to avoid rebounds if you can.

(When I say rebound relationship, I mean getting seriously involved with someone who isn't your ex. Casually spending time together or non-serious dates - as long as the other person knows what they are - are okay.)

What is a rebound relationship? Basically this right after you've broken up with someone, you haven't even taken time to assess what went wrong, haven't had time to heal, etc.

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But right away you're ready to jump into a new relationship with another person. You might even marry that person. Bad, bad idea. Why? Because you have never even dealt with the initial relationship. You are just moving on to someone else.

And I can guarantee you that no matter what, or at least in about 99% of circumstances, you are going to move on to the EXACT same type of person, the EXACT same type of problems, in most cases.

Either that or you will just move on to someone who is just so not right, you know it, it's so not a good thing.

But all your feelings of loneliness and depression, you don't acknowledge them. And those are the real problem.

That is why about 99% of rebound relationships do not work. And so what happens is that you get two failed relationships, once the rebound doesn't work, and then you have to deal with that. So it's like a double dose of awfulness in your life. Do you really want that?

It just compounds the pain of the breakup twice over.

So ultimately it's better just to deal with the breakup, and then when you're over the situation, you can start dating again.

How can you do this? Easy, go no contact for 30 days or more. Just cease talking to your ex, stop thinking about them, get them out of your head. If you aren't thinking about them you aren't going to stress about them.

Just distract yourself. But NOT with a rebound relationship.

Get rid of all your ex's books and CDs and things you have lying around that remind you of them. Pictures, clothing, anything you have that reminds you of that person that is in your apartment or your home.

Pack them away for now. Maybe you don't have to do it forever. Just get rid of them for now. Out of sight, out of mind. You will get over them much more easily if they're not in your mind.

It doesn't mean you need to cut them out of every photograph and set it on fire in the backyard. Just get the reminders of them gone from your immediate consciousness.

Saturday, November 5, 2011

I Can't Stop Looking at My Phone After The Breakup - 3 Powerful Tricks To Kill the Pain and Get Him Back

Are you checking your phone every five minutes after the breakup? If so, you're falling prey to an unfortunate circumstance of the post-breakup haze that we all go into.
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Here's how you can STOP looking at your phone after a breakup and get him back once you've regained your mental equilibrium:
1. Get rid of the phone.
Out of sight, out of mind. Put your phone somewhere else. Hide it somewhere you won't be tempted to see it. When you ARE tempted to go find it, distract yourself.
Better yet, give your phone to a friend and let them keep it for a while.
If you need your phone for work or something, simply tell your employer you canceled your cell phone plan for a while. Have them contact you by email instead.
The key is - get your method of contact with your ex OUT of your mind. Removing temptation is the easiest way to resist it.
2. Call a friend.
Get a friend to come over and distract you. Ask her to hang out. Go somewhere fun - shopping, for example. Do something that will get your mind off your breakup.
Hanging out with a friend is a great way to boost your mood as well. The positive energy from another person will get you into a good state of mind, and out of the desperate post-breakup haze.
It will also prevent depression and heartbreak which naturally follow a breakup.
3. Get out of the house.
One of the worst things you can do after a breakup - and one that will most easily lead you down the road to more fighting with your ex - is to be stuck around the house.
Make a list of your favorite activities, and then get involved in them! Bonus points for committing to a social activity that you can't back out of.
Even more bonus points if you pick a physical activity like running, biking, or playing your favorite sports. Even a game of frisbee can get your mind off the pain of a breakup.
Physical activity also boosts feel good chemicals in the brain called endorphins. These will make you feel better - and make it easier to deal with the breakup.
So there are plenty of ways to remove the temptation of checking your phone to see if your ex has called or left a message. You really don't want to do that - especially when you're trying to get him back after a breakup.
The last thing you want to do in that situation is to tell him that you're desperate by constantly checking your phone - and then immediately responding when he DOES contact you. The key is to take back power in the relationship and get your mind off the pain.
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Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Ex Recovery System PDF Review

Here's a quick review of the Ex Recovery System PDF by Ashley Kay, one of the best resources for getting your ex back.

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Sunday, October 9, 2011

No Contact Rule - How Long Does it Take to Get My Ex Back

Want to know about the no contact rule and how long it will take to get your boyfriend back? Here's a simple breakdown of the no contact rule and how it works.

1. No contact lets you escape desperation.

You might be feeling overwhelmed and desperate after a breakup, like you're bombarded with emotions. You've just lost someone very dear to you, so feeling this way is normal.

No contact works to let you get away from that kind of desperate mindset, which will actually drive him away. Ultimately, you want to get to a point where your ex boyfriend sees you as attractive again. And being desperate won't help that.

2. No contact should be implemented for 30 days typically.

Some people advise more time for no contact periods, but 30 days is a good start. Basically, during this time, you should be avoiding talking to your ex as much as possible, and instead focusing on:

-Your own mental health
-Keeping busy and active
-Doing things at work to keep you distracted
-Making any necessary changes in your life that will help you feel better
-Keeping in touch with friends/support network

3. No contact means as little contact as possible.

While you don't completely have to avoid your ex boyfriend, for example if you see him at work or around town/school and you can't avoid him. But you should be minimizing contact with him. This means not actively texting or messaging him. When you see him out somewhere, simple smile and say hello, then go about your business.

You don't want to send the wrong message, that you're no longer interested; you just want him to know you're keeping your contact as minimal as possible until you can get out of the desperate mindset that will drive him away.

Once your no contact period is over, you will need a plan to get him back. This entails certain steps such as making yourself cheerful and attractive, re-initiating contact with him, sending a special letter to pique his interest, and finally keeping your relationship on track for good.

Saturday, October 1, 2011

How to make a conversation with a girl

If you’re wondering how to make a conversation with a girl you like, here’s a 3 step, simple explanation for you. While these tricks are easy to adopt into your regular conversation routine, they should be practiced often.

1. Work on your self confidence.

You should focus on trying to talk to as many different people as you can, beacuse your self confidence will build. It’s not as hard to learn how to make conversation with girls you like as many people make it out to be. It’s really all a matter of practice.

When it comes to self confidence, it’s something that can benefit you in more than one way. Why? Because the more self confident youa re, the more people will want to talk to you, and the easier it becomes to talk to them. See, this will help you when it comes to approaching women as well.

You can also develop self confidence by leading a life where you’re really happy, so set small goals for yourself that you can attain, as they’ll give you good mood boosts.

2. Practice, practice, practice.

It’s unrealistic to expect that overnight, you’ll become some kind of whiz at talking to girls. You need to practice your social and conversational techniques as often as possible. So get out there in the real world and start chatting people up.

Go to as many places as you can – book stores, social outings, business functions, anywhere you get to talk to people. Make it a habit to get into conversations about the weather or whatever neutral topics you can think of.

3. Try not to care what she thinks.

You need to stop caring about what girls think about you when learning how to make a conversation with a girl. The less you worry about her opinion, the easier it is to talk to her and ultimately be successful with her.

Along with self-confidence, this comes with good conversational skills as well. So keep working on building your people skills and your confidence so that when you approach a girl, you won’t even care about her opinion of you.

In the end, if all you can do is say to yourself before you approach a girl, “I dont’ care what she thinks; I have a good opinion of myself” you’ll be worlds ahead.

Remember: build self confidence, practice talking to people, and try not to care what girls think of you. The more you adopt these three things, the easier it will get to have success with women.

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Sunday, September 25, 2011

Sunday, September 11, 2011

How Do I Know He Is Cheating On Me

How do I know he is cheating on me? This is probably one of the most stressful questions to have to ask in a marriage. If you suspect your husband of cheating, then you've probably got some legitimate concerns that need to be addressed.

First off, is he spending time with other people - or women?

If so, you have a legitimate right to know what's going on with him. He cannot be seeing or spending time with other women without telling you why. This is a violation of rights within a marriage. Any agreement that is monogamous within two people automatically assumes that each partner must completely divulge his or her activities with other people.

Sorry if that got a little technical. The bottom line is: he needs to tell you who he's spending time with, either online, or out in the real world. If he doesn't, you have reason to suspect him of cheating.

Secondly, does he seem more distant from you emotionally?

If he does, you've got more reason to wonder what's up with his romantic life. You can't really know if he's cheating on you for sure by spying on him or anything like that, and really, that just adds fuel to the fire.

When you suspect him of cheating because he's emotionally distant you need to:

1. Question him about his activities. If he acts suspicious or dodgy, you know something else is going on.

2. If he refuses to answer you, there's a bigger problem in your marriage: lack of communication.

Thirdly, and perhaps most importantly, if you think your husband is cheating on your, or you suspect he's being unfaithful in any way, this indicates a problem in your marriage. Whether he is or isn't, there is a problem.

Clearly, you feel a need isn't being met. He's not giving you enough attention/appreciation. He's not trusting you, and not spending enough time with you.

He may feel you are some way not meeting his needs either. So the two of you need to talk. Get your feelings out in the open. One way or another, avoiding the problem won't help; you need to actually get together and speak in a quiet, non-confrontational way.

Leave your emotions at the door and set aside a quiet time to speak about what's going on in each other's lives.

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Friday, September 9, 2011

How the No Contact Rule Works

You'll often hear about the no contact rule when you go online to research means of getting your ex-girlfriend back after a breakup. So what is it? Is it effective? And doesn't going no contact mean your ex will forget you?

That's the wrong kind of thinking, but unfortunately, the kind of thinking many of us go through after a breakup. Here's why the no contact rule works, and how you can use it to get your ex back post-breakup.

What no contact is

No contact is essentially taking a period of time where you don't talk to your ex, or have very minimal contact with her. During this time you're focusing more on yourself than anything; you've now got a chance to:

1. Get a logical, rational perspective about your breakup.
2. Realize it's not the end of the world even though you're broken up.
3. Allow yourself to calm your mind and breathe again.
4. Get your life back.

No contact also allows your ex to do all the same, which is beneficial to her. So it works both way.

Why the no contact rule works

The no contact rule works because it allows you to approach your ex again later, in a more rational frame of mind.

But perhaps the most effective reason for no contact is:

It lets you get out of DESPERATION MODE.

After a breakup, we go into what I call "desperation mode" where we start texting and calling our ex nonstop, or trying to talk to them on IM - whatever means you use. And we try to figure out why they broke up with us.

This backfires. The ex thinks, "oh man, he's so desperate. I'll just cut him off completely; I don't want to deal with this."

So when you're tempted to do this, it's MUCH wiser to go no contact because you AVOID desperation mode, and thereby avoid driving your ex away.

How to implement no contact

To use no contact, first:

-Get a calendar.

Mark off the days you'll have no or low contact with your ex. (Low contact means saying hi, but not going much beyond that.)

30 days is a good time period to shoot for. It will give you plenty of time to get out of desperation mode and back into a rational, calm frame of mind.

-Mark off the day you will re-initiate contact.

Set the date 30 days from now, or whenever you choose, to re-initiate contact with your ex. Now, it's important that you DON'T contact your ex before you have regained a rational state of mind. So allow yourself as much time as you need; better to overcompensate.

-Make a plan for what you'll say.

Now, you don't want this first contact to be, "let's meet up and talk about our relationship for 3 hours." Instead you simply want to be SEEN by your ex so they realize you are again the rational, calm, attractive, happy person she fell in love with.

So make it a light note, something like, "Hey, how's it going." You definitely want to keep the conversation neutral; avoid your breakup as a topic of conversation. Good topics include the weather, current events, and simple, easygoing topics. Avoid talking about any current romances in either of your lives as well.

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Why She Cheated On You - And How You Can Get Her Back

If you've found that your ex-girlfriend cheated on you, it wasn't because you did something wrong. It's also not because the other guy was in some way better than you.

It's a very simple reason: she didn't feel appreciated.

Women want nothing more than to feel like you really love what they do for you. When she calls you at work to hear your voice, for example - she's trying to be reaffirmed in the fact that you love her.

Women need to feel appreciated and loved. If they don't, they'll find another man who makes them feel this way.

Trust me on this: it's basic human psychology. In fact, it's one of the key differences between men and women. Men want to be admired; women like to be appreciated.

So the reason she cheated on you is simple: the other guy made her feel appreciated. He listened to her (probably her complaining about you!) and that made her feel better.

Each situation is different, but the chances are, the guy she cheated with wasn't someone she just "fell in love with" right away.

It's more probable that the other guy fed her need for appreciation that she was not receiving from you.

However, you have an ace up your sleeve, which is your relationship with her.

You are already familiar with her, have a history with her, and have built a grounded relationship which has not (even if you might think so) been destroyed beyond repair.

She is familiar with you. She does love you, even if all her behavior points to the contrary. The problem is not with you, or with her, but simply with the communication between the two of you.

When you initiate the steps to make her feel appreciated she will not feel the need to find other men outside your relationship. Simply, you will be enough for her, when you make the effort to fix your relationship troubles and make her feel appreciated.

If you feel like you've already screwed things up with your ex beyond redemption, don't worry. You haven't. In many cases, breakups are just caused by a lack of communication - as I mentioned above.

So shift your mind away from everything that went wrong in your relationship and start to let yourself heal and breathe. Put the bad memories out of your mind. Feel - really feel - the pain of the breakup, and then let it go.

Once you have started to do this, and heal the old wounds, you can fully devote your attention to repairing your relationship with your ex-girlfriend completely.

Friday, July 1, 2011

One Basic Thing That Will Help You Feel Better After a Breakup

I know it sucks big time right after a breakup. I have been there. In fact, I'm there right now, and it definitely sucks.

The sleepless nights, the depression, the need to drink, overeat, and numb your pain with stuff like music and video games.

I've learned to deal with it better through the use of exercise, but sometimes you can't bring yourself to just run out the door and start jogging 20 miles. Yep - I know.

So when you've just gone through a breakup and you need a way to immediately feel better, try this:

1. Find a quiet place to sit.
2. Tune out as many outside distractions as you can.
3. Concentrate on one object in front of you - say, a lamp.
4. Focus on the texture of the object you're looking at. Put all your conscious thought into looking at that one object.

As you do this object focus exercise, I want you to take deep breaths as well. Slowly in, then out.

When the negative thoughts try to come racing into your mind again, don't let them surface. Instead, picture them in a little box or bubble in your mind - and then let go, slowly, of this image, in your mind.

Picture it getting smaller and smaller.

Until finally, it just pops, and is gone.

Using this little method is a great way to get your thoughts focused after a breakup, when your head is swimming with all the negative stuff after your ex-girlfriend (or boyfriend) has left you.

Getting refocused is the starting point to post-breakup recovery, and if you keep trying this technique for a little bit, you'll eventually be able to use it every time you feel bad - even after things that aren't breakup-related.

But the main thing is that you feel better, and that's what I want for you. So try out this technique if you can, when you're feeling really crappy after a breakup. I think it might help. :)

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

A Key Part of Keeping Your Ex Girlfriend Once You Get Her Back

The process to get your ex girlfriend back from another guy is extremely important, but once you hook her interest again, the work isn't over. You are going to have to retrain your thinking about relationships and women in general, a little bit, in order to keep your relationship with the girl in a better place.
One thing that leads to stale, boring relationships (and in many cases, your girlfriend heading off to find someone new) is the human doormat principle. I know, because I've played this role plenty of times and until I learned just what I was doing wrong, I could not keep a girlfriend to save my life.
Girls do not want a MEAN guy, but they want a guy who will stand up for himself. And don't confuse standing up for yourself with being mean, because they're different. Standing up for yourself is something that springs out of self-respect and confidence (two extremely attractive attributes). Meanness is something that occurs out of fear and anger (two unattractive attributes).
So out of fear that we will be MEAN, we consequently let the girl make all the decisions and just agree with everything she says and does. She wants to go to a restaurant? We let her decide which one to go to and don't express our own opinion because we're afraid to piss her off. She isn't in the mood tonight? That's fine; we don't want to express the dissatisfaction of not having a sexual relationship because we'll start a fight, and she will leave.
Well, I'm here to tell you that you need to start expressing your wants and needs in the relationship NOW. This is what your ex girlfriend will respect you for. You need to start making some decisions. You pick where to eat, then tell her where you're going and she'll come along. You decide what you do with your time, and when you have sex. This confidence and authority will not drive her away – it will excite her! Consequently you will both be happier when you get back together.
However, there is a specific process to get back your ex girlfriend when she has left you for another guy, and one that in many cases is extremely successful. Of course every situation is different, but nine times out of ten, if you simply follow the correct process by initiating contact, and saying the right words, you will be able to get your ex girlfriend back even if she is with some other guy.

Sunday, March 27, 2011

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me For Another Guy - 3 Mistakes That Drive Her Away

Are you in the unhappy situation of "my girlfriend broke up with me for another guy"? And if so, do you know what to do to get her back? Probably not, and it's not your fault. The truth of the matter is, no one ever taught us how to deal with breakups and the pain of losing a woman when we were in school. Odds are, you're acting on natural instinct about getting her back - and that is driving her AWAY.

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1. Being extremely nice and telling her you love her over and over again.

Sure it makes SENSE that telling her you're sorry, and you love her so much, would eventually get her back. But what makes sense to us doesn't make sense to her, in most cases. The more you call her phone again and again, or leave her texts and emails, the more you are telling her that YOU ARE DESPERATE. And that is going to drive her away.

2. You're trying to use LOGIC to get her back.

One small secret: women do not respond to logic, period, when it comes to relationships and breakup arguments. You may have a great career, great looks, or great everything. But she WILL leave you for another guy if she is not getting her emotional needs met. Yes, women respond to EMOTION, not logic, in relationships. This is one thing those "jerks" and "bad boys" use to their advantage to get laid.

3. Shutting her out completely.

Lots of breakup and reconnecting advice columns will tell you to initiate the NC (no contact) rule, but that is actually not going to help in your favor either. If you really want to get her back, you need to learn how to establish contact with her after the breakup but in a way that paints you as the attractive guy she wants in her life. Think about it: if you really want her back, how is shutting her out completely really going to help you? All she's going to think is that you really don't want her - or worse, that you are not strong enough to deal with continuing to have her in your life after a breakup.

If you are serious about getting the problem of your girlfriend leaving you for another guy solved, and getting her back into your arms, you need to avoid the above mistakes.

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Sunday, March 20, 2011

My Girlfriend Left Me for My Best Friend! What Do I Do?

My girlfriend left me for my best friend! That is one of the most painful situations to ever have to be in. Just about the only thing worse than seeing someone you love break up with you is seeing them leave you for your best friend. The world feels like it's crumbling around you and you just don't know what to do, or who to trust. Your faith in both of these people is shaken exponentially – and you feel like you've lost them both.
Believe me, I know the feeling! This is an impossibly difficult situation, but there are some ways you can make yourself feel better, and even start getting back on the right track. You need to figure out if you really want this girl back if she's dating your best friend. And if you do, you need to know how to get her back.
These steps are going to seem pretty strange to you, but hear me out.
First thing you want to do is let her know you accept it. You need her to know that you are okay with the breakup (even though “okay” is about the last word you'd use to describe it. “Raging mad” is usually going to be more accurate).
Now this is important: WRITE HER A LETTER.
Do not call her. Do not text her. Do not email her. Just write her a letter, preferably by hand. You do not want the temptation to rehash old problems which is very easy through modern communication such as phone and email. Plus, she may not even want to talk to you right now. A letter is ideal because she can read it when she's ready.
Now in this letter you want to tell her that you value what you learned from her in your relationship, that you accept the breakup, and that you hope she is happy (do not mention the best friend. He – or she – is irrelevant). That's all. Say it your own way, but make sure that you say these things to her.
Then you want to send your letter. That's all.
Now by doing this, you are cementing yourself as a mature, kind person in her eyes, and that is way more attractive than anything. You can now breathe easily because you'll have done everything within your control at this point to get your girl back from another guy, or girl as the case may be.
Remember: she left because there was something unfulfilled in her relationship with you, but you have an advantage in that she hooked up with you in the first place. She must have feelings for you. Feelings don't just go away, even if she says they do (which is just her anger speaking).
Now, you want to focus on yourself.
Go out, make new friends, indulge your passions and hobbies. Play your favorite sports, making sure to get plenty of exercise. Now is the time to eat a good diet, not lots of junk food which will just make you more depressed. Don't view the loss of your ex as a bad thing; instead, see it as a chance to reconnect with the most important person in your life: YOURSELF. Do not think about your ex, or the best friend, or any of it.
To read more about dealing with the heartache of your girlfriend leaving you for your best friend, visit this site.

Saturday, March 19, 2011

The Calm Mind Technique from TW Jackson

TW Jackson talks about how to calm your mind from the distressing thoughts during a breakup. This video is definitely useful right after a breakup, but you can also use the "Calm Mind Technique" any time you are stressed out, at any time.

If you find this video useful, you can also learn more about TW's system and other tricks in The Magic of Making Up.

Friday, March 18, 2011

My Girlfriend Wants to Take A Break – What Do I Do?

If your girlfriend is telling you she wants to take a break from your relationship, chances are it's time to step in right away to figure out what is going on. If you're serious about keeping her, you need to take a serious look at some things that might be taking place in your relationship and driving her away.
-Possessiveness and jealousy
Fear based motivators like jealousy and possessiveness will cause you to do irrational things that drive her away. If you feel jealous when she talks to other guys, give some thought to why this happens.
Are you worried she will leave you for one of these other guys? If so, why? Does she listen to you when you express your fears to her, and help you find way to combat them? Figure out exactly where your jealousy is coming from so you can deal with it and not lose her.
-Loss of interest in sex
We often think that sex is something that comes from a strictly physical attraction to someone, but it is rarely the case that someone's physical attributes alone are enough to make us want them physically. We have to be connected on a mental level.
Find similar interests between you and your girlfriend. Playing your favorite sports together, sharing interesting conversation about your lives and dreams, or even just playing a fun game together can bring you closer, and contribute to your fun in the bedroom.
-Communication difficulties
When we feel we can't be open and honest with a partner, it often drives us away from each other. It is easier to repair relationships that are in trouble by taking the attitude that we will listen with an open heart and mind.
Try to really hear what your girlfriend is saying when she says she wants to take a break from your relationship. If this is because of issues with your treatment of her, try to figure out why she feels that way and how you can do better.
Often these problems can simply be solved by focusing on your life and your interests; if you live in a strong reality, she will follow you into it, if you are an exciting, cool person to be with. And if you are kind and thoughtful of others' feelings, you will be more attractive to her as well.

Thursday, March 17, 2011

The Steps to Getting Your Ex Back Fast

If your ex has just left you, it can be a frustrating and difficult time, when all you can think about is how badly you want her back. Do not despair! There are ways to get her back, even if she is with another guy. It's just a matter of shifting your focus.
First, you need to do something else. Get your mind off your sadness. Being mopey and despairing over her leaving you will not make her want you back. You need to take this breakup time as something positive: it's a chance for you to work on yourself and focus on your needs.
Indulge your hobbies. Play basketball or whatever your favorite sport may be. Read some books on your favorite topics. Take a trip to your favorite place. Just focus on yourself, your needs, and really think about what you want.
Secondly, you need to let her know you are not desperate. Desperation sends a woman off in a way body odor never will. Just call her to let her know that you understand the breakup was necessary, and you enjoyed the time you spent with her and really value everything you learned from her. That's it.
This is going to make her respect you more – which is what you want, and it is one of the most important steps to getting your ex back fast.
Finally you need to live your life. Do exciting, fun things, meet new people, learn about the world around you. Rediscover your boyhood passions. If you work, make sure to schedule “me” time where you can reconnect with your hobbies and the things that bring you joy. This is because being happy will make you more attractive to her, and lead her to want to spend more time with you.
Want to get her to call you? Allow her a glimpse of your new self, the one that is happy because you live a life full of interesting people and activities. And make some new friends while you're at it. Having friends will make you more attractive in your ex girlfriend's eyes.

Saturday, March 12, 2011

The One Stop Method to How to Get Your Girl Back From Another Guy

If your girl has left you for another guy, there are a number of things you don't want to do, such as pining after her and calling her repeatedly, begging her to take you back. That will push her away. There is a simple first move you can use to solidify your place in your girl's mind after she has left you for another girl, known as what I call the "one stop method".

First what you'll need to do is get a piece of paper. You're going to be writing a letter. It needs to be a letter, not an email or a phone call. You need her to read your thoughts on words, not anywhere else. This is an important first step in how to get your girl back from another guy.

So you'll write this letter, explaining that you understand why she wanted to call off your relationship. You're not going to apologize, but you need to communicate to her that you enjoyed your time together, and you're grateful for what she gave you.

By doing this, you are proving to her that you are a mature, kind man, and that you are not desperate. You're letting her know that you're able to withstand losing her even though it is hard - breakups are hard. But she will respect you more for this; it's just a basic facet of human nature to respect people who take the high road.

In your letter, you should thank her, and you should keep it short. Don't go on and on about everything you love about her, but just be simple and straightforward in your thoughts. Avoid the negative, and focus on the positive. This letter is going to cement the framework for your next interactions with her which will hopefully be positive.

Once you've finished your letter, send it to her.

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Does She Still Care? How to Get Your Girl Back - Determine Her Feelings

When guys go through a breakup, often it can be tough to figure out when your ex is still really into you. But there are some very obvious signs that are easy to miss because we get so caught up in the whirlwind of pain and negative emotions of a breakup. There are two ways to deal with this.

First: You need to get your head on straight, and stop pining over her. She is not going to want you when you're sad and mopey. By using a specific technique called the "fast forward technique", you can actually get immediate relief from emotional breakup pain.

Secondly you need to look for the clues that she is still into you. If she is still making ANY effort to stay in touch with you, even if it is just a phone call now and then, then she is still into you. If she is "checking up on you" after the breakup, she is still interested in you. Plain and simple: if she tries to maintain contact in any way, she is still interested.

Now even if she doesn't try to keep in touch with you steadily, there is still hope. Sometimes you might just have to work a little harder to get her back. However, it's very important that if she has more or less LOST interest in you, and it seems that way quite plainly, that you follow the specific steps to regain her interest, work on your own sense of self, and finally reconnect in a way that gets you on good ground with her.

But it's very important not to mess these things up. If you see that she's still interested in you, there's good news: she probably still wants to get back together at some point. If she doesn't seem interested, don't despair. Just work on your own wants and needs for a while. See it as a chance to get in touch with your inner man again. Don't fret about her being with some other guy; that is beyond your control and won't do you any good. So just take care of yourself for a while, eat a good diet, and do things you love that make you happy and healthy. Then, eventually, things will end up the way they should with your girl.

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Monday, March 7, 2011

Things Not to Do to Get Your Girl Back From Another Guy

Now, I'm not going to tell you to be mean to your ex-girlfriend, or any girl anywhere. But one of the most common mistakes a lot of guys make is being too "nice". You've probably heard that. It's common, because we're raised to believe that being nice is the way to get people to like us. It's the OPPOSITE in real life; we respect people who are strong and self-respecting, not wimpy pushovers who do everything other people want them to.

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It's the same for your girl. If she sees you being too "nice" (as in, doing everything she wants), she'll be repulsed. To get her back into your arms from another guy, she has to see that you are independent, that you care about yourself and your own interests, and that you respect yourself equally with other people.

So, don't be "nice" too much.

Another thing you should never do when you want to get your girl back from another guy is to convince her, or try to be logical about it. Women do not see things logically; they see things with their emotions. That's why they're commonly drawn to "bad boys" or jerks who give them an emotional rollercoaster ride, and then leave.

Even if you're the nicest guy around, loaded with money, and have great looks or even skills in bed, she won't care if you don't appeal to her EMOTIONS, not her logic.

Finally, do not shower her with gifts or flowers when you try to get her back from another guy. You need to actually break away from her for a time. Tell her you understand why you had to break up, and that the space will be a good chance for you to breathe for a little while. She will respect you a lot more for that than for flowers. Flowers just say "I'm desperate! Take me back!" and that is a turnoff to a girl.

Sunday, March 6, 2011

How to Get Your Girl Back From Another Guy

If your girl has dumped you for another guy, you might be feeling like it’s the end of the world. Believe me, I know exactly how you feel, as I too have been in that situation many times. After time and again getting dumped by girls I really cared about, I decided it was time to figure out what I was going wrong - and how to get them back from these other guys they seemed to like better.

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The first key to learn how to get your girl back from another guy:

Stop trying

Yes, I know this one doesn’t make much sense, but the truth is, trying to get her to come back to you is only going to push her away. If she’s hooked up with another guy, it’s not necessarily because he was cooler than you. She might just be looking for excitement that you’re not giving her, which leads us to the second key...

Focus on yourself

Often when relationships go bad, it’s because one partner becomes too dependent on the other for happiness. Clinginess drives people away. You might have been getting too clingy and not even realized it. The truth is that there’s a strong biological urge in all human beings, male and female, to be drawn to independent people. If you wanted to hang out with her too much, or felt like all your happiness was derived from her, then you probably drove her away without realizing it.

The way to fix this is to focus on your own wants, your own needs, and your own interests. And then, she will naturally come back to you because you are an interesting guy who clearly knows what he wants and you aren’t afraid to pursue it.

Listen to her, but don’t push her

Right after she’s broken up with you for another guy, you are going to have to take the hardest step: let her go. Let her hang out with the other guy, or do whatever she wants. Do not let her know you’re jealous or upset over it, no matter what.

Yes, you’ll be feeling that way, but you can’t clue her in to that fact. You need the space to focus on yourself, not your feelings of jealousy over another guy. Her relationship with anyone else is beyond your control. You need to get away from things you can’t control, because they will only make you more frustrated and angry.

Eventually when she sees that you have become that strong, interesting guy that she was drawn to in the first place, she will be intrigued, and naturally be drawn to you once more.

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